YOU’VE CARRIED A LOT FOR A LONG TIME
You’ve spent years paying attention to how other people are doing.
It became normal to step in when things got difficult and to put your own feelings to one side so everything could keep moving.
You didn’t choose that role. It simply grew around you, and after a while it became the only way you knew how to be.
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From the outside, your life looks fine. You show up, you work hard and you care deeply.
But under the surface there is a sense of strain you can’t quite ignore.
You feel stretched, anxious and unsure why slowing down feels so difficult.
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There might be moments when you catch yourself thinking, ‘Why does all of this seem to fall to me?’ or ‘How did I end up carrying so much?’
It’s not that you’re dramatic or imagining it. You’ve simply taken on more than any one person is meant to hold.​
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I’m Polly Crabtree.
I work with women who grew up looking after everyone else, whether emotionally, practically or both, and who now feel worn down by the same patterns turning up in their adult lives.
Therapy gives you space to understand how those patterns formed, what they cost you and how you might begin to live in a way that feels more like your own.
You’re allowed to make space for yourself now
I'VE BEEN THERE
For a long time I believed that being a good partner, parent and therapist meant putting myself at the back of the queue.
I kept going even when I was completely drained because keeping everything steady felt like my responsibility.
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It took getting close to burnout to recognise that I’d been living by expectations that were never actually mine.
Over the years I’d gathered ideas about being capable, steady and the one who sorts things out. I carried these ideas because I thought that was what I was meant to do.
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Change for me didn’t arrive in a single moment. There was no big realisation or overnight fix. It unfolded slowly, as I began to notice what wasn’t working and tried different ways of doing things as I practised letting myself matter again.
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That’s the work I do with women now. We look at the old rules you grew up with, the habits that formed around them and the pressure you’ve been under for years.
Together, we find a way of living that feels steadier and more in line with who you actually are.
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If you want to know more about who I am and how I work, you can read more about me here.​
'My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style.'
Maya Angelou
READY TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY?
You don’t have to wait until you’re burnt out or overwhelmed before something changes.
Noticing what isn’t working is enough of a starting point.
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Therapy can give you the space to understand what’s been weighing on you and to try a different way of approaching things, one that feels steadier and more manageable.
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Book in a free 15 minute chat with me to see how I can help you
If you have questions before booking, you can get in touch here​